To think, I almost threw it out

I was cracking the whip assisting my daughters in the tidying of their room. Everything has a place. Nothing was in it.

“Is this pretty?” I asked.

They admitted it was not.

On top of the dresser, among other things, was a lone sock.

“Katie, put this in the hamper.” I ordered requested nicely.

“But it doesn’t have a match,” she moaned explained. And keeping it on the dresser solves that problem? {Sarcastic comments are kept to myself.}

“I KNOW it doesn’t have a match. It’s mate is on the dryer, where it has been for a month, waiting for this one to cycle through the laundry.”

“Oh.”

Oh, indeed.

Before Photobucket and Flickr…

Jenny had learned that some wedding cakes have a bride and groom on the top.

“Did you have that, Mommy?” she wondered.

“No. I had flowers.”

“Oooooo.” Both girls thought that sounded lovely. I am continually fascinated by the subject matter that attracts my daughters. These are conversations I would never have had, had I not a few girls. I don’t consider myself overly feminine or interested in frilly things, but the boy world seems to revolve around sports, weapons of mass destruction, and inventing games that include an element of risk to life or limb or property. Every now and then, it is pleasant to discuss things that do not involve violence.

I told the girls that we could look at my wedding pictures later to see the cake. When later came around, they jumped for joy. As I headed toward the bookshelf where the wedding album (unopened for several years) is stored, they ran in the opposite direction.

To the computer.

“Girls, allow me to introduce to you the world of high-gloss…”

Katie’s MRI

Katie has been complaining of knee pain for about a year now, and her newest doctor decided she should have an MRI. Because of her age, she had to be sedated. Bill took off work yesterday and spent all day at Walter Reed with her – leaving around 6 AM and returning at 5 PM.

Both my older boys have been anesthetized for different things, and their recovery was uneventful. Not surprisingly, though, Katie takes after her father and his side of the family with vomiting and an unwillingness to wake up afterward. At home, she closely resembled a late night drunk as she staggered around with half-lidded eyes. I had to order her several times to stay put before she started calling out when she wanted something. It was a pitiable sight.

We don’t expect to hear from the doctor until next week. And while a prayer for her would be appreciated, think more of the other littler children who were getting MRIs with her. They, and their parents, suffering through much worse than a chronic complaint of achiness could really use a few Aves.

Did you just say what I thought you said? No? Good.

“Oh, Jesus!” I heard Katie exclaim in the back of the van.

I blinked once, twice, thrice in completely shock and disbelief. I slowly inhaled and mentally tested my “nonchalant” voice and sought the right words to ask who/what/where/when/why she would talk like that.

“I see a statue of Jesus!” she continued. Yes, outdoor nativity sets are out there. Fair warning.

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Billy comes up behind me while I’m on the computer.

“What does K – Y mean?” he asks.

Um. Well. Maybe I should get some more data. I turn and he’s holding a magnet off the fridge from Fort Knox.

“Kentucky.”

I can’t imagine…

Stuck in the car, we have some of the most interesting conversations.

Jenny: Was Daddy ever in a war?

Me: No. (Thank God).

Jenny: What’s it like to be in a war?

Me: I don’t know, honey.

Fritz: Scary!

Me: Yes, I imagine it is scary.

Katie: It’s like walking in the woods, and you have a gun, and you want to shoot the deer, but the deer are coming at you instead of running away, and they have guns too, and they’re going to shoot you.

{pause}

Me: I suppose if you can imagine that, you might be able to imagine what war is like.

FYI: Although my husband would like to go hunting, he never has, I never have, none of us have ever been hunting, seen people hunting. I don’t think they’ve ever even seen a deer strapped to a car or truck, although they did watch Open Season. They have seen deer while walking in the woods. I don’t know where she gets this stuff.

Insanity is…

…doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

Like me and cakes, especially if I’m doing the decorating.

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As an aside, I must explain that kitchens/food disasters are just a part of my life. The end results are generally good, but it’s the getting there that is often…adventurous.

For example, the house we own in New Jersey came with several pieces of furniture left behind by the previous owner. One was a kitchen table with a metal top on a wood frame. The house was small, and I would often sew at that table in the kitchen. I quickly learned that the frequency of the metal table top matched that of a certain speed of my sewing machine.

For those of you non-science types, let me explain what that means. Have you ever heard of the Tacoma Narrows Bridge? If you want to see some amazing live footage of a bridge collapse, check out this video. What happened with this bridge is one day the winds going through the Narrows exactly matched the frequency of the concrete and steel structure of the bridge. Everything has a frequency, and the wind made the bridge oscillate just like a wave. Cool to see, especially since nobody died.

In my little kitchen, my sewing machine did to my table what the wind did to that bridge. So, what did I do? Nothing. I would sew along on a bouncing table.

One day, I had chili in the crockpot. Did I mention the kitchen was small? I had no counters, so the crockpot was on the kitchen table. I was also sewing. The crockpot was behind the sewing machine, and I was paying it no mind. I got into a groove with whatever project I was working on, and as I got up to speed, the table began to bounce, violently. I continued to sew, and naturally, the crockpot bounced right off, hitting a chair in just the right way to send chili flying from the ceiling to the floor along the wall with my few cabinets and the sink.

However, enough chili stayed in the crockpot that we still ate well for dinner. We just didn’t have leftovers.

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Today, for Katie’s birthday, we drove over 3 hours north to visit with friends. I made her a chocolate cake with chocolate icing all from scratch. I made white flowers and she and Jenny and Peter put M&Ms in the centers. It was beautiful. She was so happy.

I told her we should take a picture of it before we put it in the car, because I was doubtful it would get to Pennsylvania in one piece.

I forgot.

I think we were in Delaware when I heard the thud in the way back. It was bad. I salvaged it as best I could, and we ate it anyway. I think the kids called it a “volcano cake.” It was yummy. Ugly, but yummy.

I’ll see if those photos came out tomorrow. After I clean my van.

Katie-isms

Said earnestly:

“Mommy! I taught Mary how to count to ten! I said one, and she said Eh! I said two, and she said Eh! I said three, and she said Eh! …”

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At the dinner table:

“I am going to do something inappropriate.”

belch

Do I thank her for the warning? Chastise her for her vulgar behavior? Praise her for an excellent word choice? And can you tell she has older brothers?

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Months ago, the kids all received brown scapulars at Little Flowers and Blue Knights. These are plasticy, rosary ones with a crucifix and tiny knots along the whole length. It’s sized for an adult, too, so when worn, hangs well below a child’s waist. Of all my kids, Katie has persisted longest in wearing hers. She has never taken it off: not in the bath, not at the pool.

Yesterday, I took her to a ballet class to see what level was good for her and if she liked it. I warned her that she might not be able to wear the scapular during class.

Tearfully, she said, “But Mommy, I promised God I would never take it off!”

So sweet!

But when I saw her in her leotard, I really felt that it shouldn’t be worn. Not only did it protrude in the back and hang obviously around her neck, it bulged in the front where the excess length pooled around her tummy. I gently told her to take it off just for class. I felt horrible.

Anybody else have to deal with something like this? Scapulars are meant to be worn under clothing. They aren’t intended for public display. The leotard is a standard leotard and not immodest (for a leotard), but you can’t wear anything under a leotard without it being noticed.

I myself struggled with this issue when I was going to a military ball with Bill. My medal scapular hung low on my neck, but looked really silly outside my dress or inside and partially exposed. I finally bought a pretty necklace with a short string of blue freshwater pearls and a small silver cross.

Perhaps for Katie I should stitch a small woolen scapular inside her leotard?