Sunday Morning Controversy

Controversial Doll Lets Little Girls Pretend to Breast-Feed

I just had to read this article. I don’t prefer toys that require batteries or make noises, and I don’t think my daughters need shirts with drop-down access, so I am not in the market for this sort of thing. My daughters have all been perfectly happy shoving stuffed animals up their shirts with no prompting from me. They just do what they see mommy doing. It’s perfectly natural.

But what strikes me in this article are the anti-crowd’s remarks.

“…parents around the world have criticized Berjuan, saying the idea of breast-feeding is too grown-up for young children — and may even promote early pregnancy.”

Breast-feeding – providing nourishment for an infant – is too grown-up a concept for little children? Ummm…???

Promotes early pregnancy? Maybe we should hide all babies from anyone under the age of 25 so that no little girl gets the idea that they are cute and would like one. Keeping in mind this is a Spanish manufacturer and knowing the unsustainably low birthrate in Europe, I guess it’s not so much a matter of hiding the babies…they just don’t have babies. It’s one way to combat teen pregnancy: discourage children in general.

Dr. Manny Alvarez, managing health editor of FOXNews.com, said although he supports the idea of breast-feeding, he sees how his own daughter plays with dolls and wonders if Bebe Gloton might speed up maternal urges in the little girls who play it.

Heavens knows we don’t want little girls to have any maternal urges. Why do we even let stores sell those kitchens and dishes and pretend food? Why have we not banned or at least discouraged dolls in the first place? Toy stores should sell pink tools sets and pink hard hats and pink briefcases. None of this “mommy” stuff.

“Pregnancy has to entail maturity and understanding,” Alvarez said. “It’s like introducing sex education in first grade instead of seventh or eighth grade. Or, it could inadvertently lead little girls to become traumatized. You never know the effects this could have until she’s older.”

Is he suggesting we want our youth having sex in the seventh grade? If sex education in the 1st grade might correlate to sex at an early age, wouldn’t sex education in the seventh grade also correlate to sex at an early age? Really, can’t we all agree that 13 year olds should not be having sex? (I’m not promoting ignorance here, just saying that his argument is weak).

So, wouldn’t little girls pretending to breastfeed likely have the effect of them wanting to breastfeed their own real babies when they are older? Isn’t this a good thing?

Alvarez said breast-feeding reduces childhood infections, strengthens maternal bonding and increases the child’s immune system. But introducing breast-feeding to girls young enough to play with dolls seems inappropriate, he said.

Inappropriate? Truly this is a holdover attitude from someone who thinks women should excuse themselves to a private location to nurse their child.

“What’s next?” wrote Eric Ruhalter, a parenting columnist for New Jersey’s Star Ledger. “Bebe Sot — the doll who has a problem with a different kind of bottle, and loses his family, job and feelings of self-worth? Bebe Limp — the male doll who experiences erectile dysfunction? Bebe Cell Mate — a weak, unimposing doll that experiences all the indignation and humiliation of life in prison?

“Toy themes should be age appropriate. I think so anyway.”

Comparing breastfeeding to issues such as low self-esteem, sexual dysfunction and incarceration is ludicrous.

Again, a big chunk of the world seems to need reminding that breastfeeding is not about sex. Breasts were made for feeding a baby, not primarily as playtoys. It is sad that our culture is so warped and sex-obsessed. We have all the collective maturity of a bunch of high schoolers where everything has a double entendres.

There is nothing more age appropriate than a little girl imitating motherly activities: cooking, cleaning, nurturing babies. I’m happy that my daughters have all rocked, cradled and “breastfed” their dolls or teddy bears.

And I’m happy that they need to be taught what that bottle thingy is.

Fresh Minty Smell

All I really want is for the kids to keep the bathroom doors closed.

OK, that’s not all I really want. But it’s a good start.

I do have to admire her resourcefulness. She was thirsty, and the door was open. So she climbed up on the counter, sat in the sink and poured herself a cup of water.

This is Mary, of course. The other “she”s in the house know how to get a drink properly: whine.

But yesterday at dinner time, Mary had disappeared. She was right there, and then she was gone. We sent out a hunt, but she fooled us. She now closes doors behind her so we don’t know she’s gotten in. Clever little devil. She was in my bathroom and had gotten her hands on the toothpaste. That blasted Colgate has toddler-friendly flip tops. I really wish Crest would start putting coupons in the paper.

Anyway, there I find her with her hands full of toothpaste. She sees me and knows she’s being naughty, so she runs and tries to hide…behind my bathrobe. The one I just washed the day before.

The one that now needs to be washed again.

One day I’m sure I’ll look back and find this all very funny. That’s why I blog it, right?

Annoying is Normal

On the way back from the pool the other day, Fritz and Billy were making Neighbor Girl crazy. Fritz was talking in an old man voice (he learned it from his father), and Billy was talking in his “Billy-Bob-Joe-Bob” country bumpkin voice (I do not know where he got the name or the voice…probably from his father). Neighbor Girl was actually offering them candy if they would stop it, but annoying her was worth so much more than a few lousy Smartees.

As they went back and forth, only a few times breaking character to laugh at how funny they found themselves, she finally pleaded, “Speak normally!”

From the front of the van, I couldn’t help myself and chimed in, “Oh, but they are speaking normally!”

Ten Minutes

“Go get the phone,” I told Fritz as I was putting Peter’s shoes on so we could leave for VBS. He dutifully ran for it. “Answer it!” I yelled after him. Normally my kids fetch the phone and let me answer it, unless the special ring indicates it is someone they know. There was no special ring, and I had no idea who it was, but I knew if he didn’t answer it, it would be sent to voicemail before it got to me.

“Hi, Dad!” I heard him say. So glad I sent him for that phone!

We talked for just ten minutes – I had to go. But as I drove to church, I realized I had a smile on my face, and the day, rainy and cool though it was, seemed so lovely and bright.

All because of ten little minutes.

But he was born yesterday…

I have finished lesson plans for my 1st grader, my 3rd grader and my 4th grader. They were fairly easy, since I have done those grades before.

I pulled up the 4th grade lesson plans to use them as a template for Fritz’s lesson plans. After saving with a new name, I made my first change: delete FOURTH and change it to SIXTH.

I have a sixth grader.

When did THAT happen?

More Baby Signing Time, please

The last thing a baby with 5 older siblings needs is more toys. I think we bought Mary the Baby Signing Time videos (Vol I and II) for her 1st birthday.

She loves them.

She watches one or the other every day. And she uses the signs, too. {As an aside, there is not much point to having your baby watch these videos if you don’t too. Mary was signing “ball” a few weeks ago, but I had had my nose in a book during that lesson and had no idea what she was saying.}

These short (30 minute) videos are a fun introduction to sign language. An adult (Rachel Coleman) shows the proper way to make the sign and gives a hint to help you remember it. Then you see children and their parents making these signs too, all while a catchy song is being sung. Two dozen signs are covered in the video which is entertaining for all ages.

I only wish I hadn’t waited until my sixth kid to get these. Mary’s 2nd birthday is coming up in a few months, and I will be getting her the original signing time for older kids. If Signing Time is a favorite of yours, which volumes do you like best?

desperate measures

The squirrels figured out how to open the bird suet feeder.

They chewed off the bread bag twisty-ties I used to secure it.

They somehow managed to remove the paperclip I fastened there yesterday.

If they foil me on this safety device, I will set up a video camera to catch them in the act.

Note: I bought that combination lock at Staples. You push the dial between the four directions: north-south-east-west, and you can set your own code. It helps if you have a sentence to remember your combination: Ethel Works Whenever She Wants New Stuff. The combination can be as long as you want. Bill needed four locks for his gear, didn’t want to have keys that would get lost, and didn’t want to have to remember different combinations. These locks helped greatly.