New Month’s Resolution for December

Some future year, I will have the wreath and candles out of storage in time for dinner on the First Sunday of Advent.

Some future year, I will have all (or at least most) of my Christmas shopping done by the end of November.

Some future year, I will spend lazy Sunday afternoons addressing Christmas cards and have them all ready for the postman by mid-December.

Some future year, I will string popcorn and cranberries and decorate the evergreen trees (I don’t have any evergreen trees here) for the birds.

Some future year, my desire and creativity regarding homemade gifts will not exceed the time and energy available for doing them.

But since it is the beginning of December, and none of the above will be happening this year, I am going to focus on letting go of those ideas. The wreath will come out today (I hope). The shopping will get done (online, mainly). The cards and the treats for the birds and the homemade gifts will get done, or not, as usual.

Ultimately, it boils down to pride. I want to put on a good show. If things aren’t “perfect” it means I am not perfect. Failure to meet my own unreasonable expectations makes me stressed and frustrated and grumpy, and that isn’t fair to my family, and it certainly isn’t fair to me. I can’t do it all. And I must humbly accept that.

What is a New Month’s Resolution? Every month I look at where I need to focus my attention. Perhaps I’ve been procrastinating on certain chores. Perhaps I need to spend some extra time with one or more of the kids. Perhaps I’d like to try a new habit. New Month’s Resolutions are not grandiose plans to lose ten pounds or declutter the entire house or give up smoking (of course, I don’t smoke, but if I did, this would not be the venue in which I would give it up). New Month’s resolutions are short-term commitments; they are easily attained goals; they focus on what is needed right now, instead of what is best for a lifetime.

Do you have a new month’s resolution?

7 thoughts on “New Month’s Resolution for December

  1. I’m with you. I’ve had to let go of a lot of grand ideas this year. I think it’s better to resolve to let go then make everybody else miserable when I’m upset if I fail. We did have our advent wreath out (with broken candles), but our lighter wouldn’t light. 🙂

  2. Thank you for the reality check. I’m having a hard time dealing with an un-perfect Advent/Christmas despite still unpacking boxes, the “joys” of pregnancy, and sick babies. Here’s to regaining some perspective!

  3. ft lewis has lots of evergreen trees. i think you should request a transferr

  4. Thank God I’m not the only one!!! Didn’t have my candles or empty manger ready for yesterday either.But today will be a fresh start and I will do my best to go easy!

  5. Oh my goodness. Are we twins? I have been struggling because I want to be able to do it all, but it seems every year December sneaks up on me and I’m left with “only” doing the Advent wreath. I haven’t even gotten to the Jesse tree. I never have honestly. I love this post. Good advice.

  6. I “forgot” about getting Advent candles until 2 days before I needed them (they will arrive in the next few days and I bought ones for next year too), I couldn’t find the Advent wreath in our 8 boxes of Christmas stuff in the basement, and I only started shopping for gifts yesterday. Plus I can’t find all the little people for our Advent calendar, where did they go?

  7. I love the idea of a new month’s resolution. I also can completely relate to your need to put on a good show. This Advent season I’m aiming to ditch the perfectionism – at least as far as perfect Christmas decor and holiday hoopla goes. I’ve already warned people who are usually the recipient of dozens of homemade Christmas goodies that I’m cutting way back this year.Instead of aiming for a perfect Christmas “show,” I think I’ll aim for a perfect (or as perfect as my falliable human self can get) heart that’s ready for Christ. I hear a: “Mommy!” so my computer time’s up for now.God bless you this Advent season, and thanks for the important reminder.~Kate

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