Some future year, I will have the wreath and candles out of storage in time for dinner on the First Sunday of Advent.
Some future year, I will have all (or at least most) of my Christmas shopping done by the end of November.
Some future year, I will spend lazy Sunday afternoons addressing Christmas cards and have them all ready for the postman by mid-December.
Some future year, I will string popcorn and cranberries and decorate the evergreen trees (I don’t have any evergreen trees here) for the birds.
Some future year, my desire and creativity regarding homemade gifts will not exceed the time and energy available for doing them.
But since it is the beginning of December, and none of the above will be happening this year, I am going to focus on letting go of those ideas. The wreath will come out today (I hope). The shopping will get done (online, mainly). The cards and the treats for the birds and the homemade gifts will get done, or not, as usual.
Ultimately, it boils down to pride. I want to put on a good show. If things aren’t “perfect” it means I am not perfect. Failure to meet my own unreasonable expectations makes me stressed and frustrated and grumpy, and that isn’t fair to my family, and it certainly isn’t fair to me. I can’t do it all. And I must humbly accept that.
What is a New Month’s Resolution? Every month I look at where I need to focus my attention. Perhaps I’ve been procrastinating on certain chores. Perhaps I need to spend some extra time with one or more of the kids. Perhaps I’d like to try a new habit. New Month’s Resolutions are not grandiose plans to lose ten pounds or declutter the entire house or give up smoking (of course, I don’t smoke, but if I did, this would not be the venue in which I would give it up). New Month’s resolutions are short-term commitments; they are easily attained goals; they focus on what is needed right now, instead of what is best for a lifetime.
Do you have a new month’s resolution?