Today’s agenda

More vomiting, so more laundry and hair holding and the spraying of Lysol. I feel like I’m blogging about vomiting a lot. (I’d link, but that’s too much work.) I feel like everybody else is blogging about vomiting too. (Again, I’d link, but that’s work, and you know who you are anyway.)

It’s Katie this time. In her bed. I pulled everything out and half of it is in the washing machine right now. Her room still stinks, and I want to faint when I walk by it. I don’t know what I missed, but it will have to wait until Jenny wakes up.

I don’t know why, but my kids seems compelled to wake me up between the hours of 3 and 4 am recently. I can’t get back to sleep after that. Today, unlike yesterday, my afternoon is clear, so my top priority for later just may be taking a nap. No, I mean my top priority definitely is taking a nap.

Week 31 – Remain Calm

I have spent the last 72 hours staring at my computer, and I’m kinda sick of it. Between hotel websites, camping websites, tourism websites, Kansas law websites, DMV websites, Army regulation websites, websites with forms, websites with telephone numbers, unsecure websites, and highly secure websites that require passwords with at least 2 capital letters, 2 small letters, 2 numbers, and 2 punctuation marks, I think I’m going cross-eyed.

I have hotel reservations in two cities, but I’m not 100% sure that those dates are accurate. I have camping reservations for a state park in Missouri for mid-July, because after all this moving, we’ll need to unwind by exhausting our muscles going on long hikes, stumbling around in the dark with petrified children exploring caves, counting 1-2-3-4-5 children every 90 seconds swimming at a lake, slaving for every meal sitting around a cheery campfire, and getting a backache from sleeping on the ground enjoying the fresh air and the sounds of nature and the great outdoors.

I also have a very looooong to-do list with headings like “8 Weeks Before Moving” and “6 Weeks Before Moving” and “4 Weeks Before Moving” and since the movers likely come in approximately FIVE weeks, I’m trying hard not to look at those things not crossed off yet and panic.

Today we more or less begin Week 31 of a 32 week program. I should be elated to be finishing this early, especially since many subjects are done and some subjects, like history, are only fun stuff like reading books about Clara Barton and Robert E. Lee. But I’m looking at that to-do list, and I’m seriously considering eliminating things like the states and capitols flashcards because it’s only review now and two more weeks of that won’t really make a difference in long-term memory storage, right?

Actually, the next three days are so jam-packed with a combination of social activities and medical appointments, that I’m just not thinking straight. Perhaps by Thursday, I’ll be back to my usual hard-line about doing every single thing on the syllabus by golly.

Now off to plan my morning and see what I might accomplish before this afternoon’s running around.

A word to the wise

If you plan to wear a wrap dress to church, and it is likely that you will be juggling a small child on your hip throughout most of your time there, then I highly recommend you double knot the ties. Perhaps you might consider safety pins as well.

If the ties should happen to come undone (failure to heed my advice or simply an extremely active child), I highly recommend that you put the small child down before attempting to re-fasten the ties. If you don’t, you will very nearly drop the child and this, although thrilling to many small children, will cause the woman sitting behind you to audibly gasp. And you will be embarrassed, not just because your dress is coming undone, but because there was an obvious witness to the whole comedy.

Trust me.

OK, I can squeeze that party in after dinner – is 15 minutes good enough?

For birthdays, the kids get to pick dinner and dessert. As long as the request is reasonable, I will accommodate it. Billy asked for, and got, pancakes for his birthday dinner. Cake seems to be the traditional choice, but perhaps as they get older they might consider pie or cobbler or hot fudge sundaes.

Fritz asked for Church’s chicken. I suppose I could be offended that he wants fast food fried chicken instead of my own homemade version. But I don’t actually fry my chicken – I bake it in the oven. And I’ll be the first to admit that deep fried chicken is really really yummy. Childhood obesity does not generally occur in children who visit fast food joints an average of once a month, even if those 12 annual visits tend to be concentrated around family vacations, cross-country moves and birthdays.

And since it’s not only a ball game night, but also a Scout Pack Meeting night, I’ve got to squeeze dinner and birthday cake and presents all in by 530 pm. To have no dinner clean up to worry about saves me one more headache on a busy night.

And this is why I felt okay about cutting Fritz’s Dairy Queen ice cream cake a night early. We’ll sing again, and even light candles on the leftovers if he wants, but I won’t feel badly about following up the serving of the cake with an urging to hurry up!

I do feel badly that my husband wasn’t around when we cut the cake. He’s rarely home before 7 pm and didn’t expect tonight to be any different. But when I told him we cut the cake, he told me he would be able to come home early tonight and was disappointed we had already done that. Have you given him his presents yet? he asked. No, I said. But I was planning to, I thought. I think it’s a bit cruel to give a kid a gift right before bedtime or right before he has to walk out the door for a game. Fortunately, Nana and Grandpa’s gift arrived via FedEx earlier, and he had plenty of Legos to assemble today. I don’t think he’ll mind too much about having to wait until tomorrow to dig into the set we got him.

And now, it’s time for me to wipe down kitchen counters and crack the whip on house-straightening. Hurry up! We’ve got to go go go!

Sometimes a rain-out is a good thing

Evidently, ours was not the only game called on account of rain tonight. Like Danielle and many of the moms who commented on Margaret’s post, I, too, love baseball season. I loved going to the games when my dad and my “uncle” (close family friend) coached my “cousin.” I loved going to see the (always losing) Cleveland Indians play at home, the dozen or so times I was able to go growing up. I loved going to see the minor league team, the Richmond Braves, play when we lived there. I love having a game on during the weekends and watching a few innings of whoever play whomever.

And if I didn’t have laundry to fold, dinner to stir up, diapers to change, and a myriad of other tasks that seem so important, I would love to spend an hour playing catch or a family pick-up game. It was I, after all, who spent an afternoon with Fritz when he was only about 3 and had him throw the ball left-handed, then throw the ball right-handed, then bat left-handed, then bat right-handed, over and over again, until I rightfully concluded that he did indeed favor a righty throw and a lefty bat-stance. And what’s really odd about that is that there is another kid on his team this year who is the same way.

I am very thankful that this year the boys can be on the same team. Two games and one practice a week times one team is quite enough. Last year I ran the boys to separate games and practices (although Billy did soccer instead). Next year, Billy will probably stick with baseball (he can play soccer in the fall), and we’ll be back to running to two different games and practices. Katie has mentioned T-ball…if I can just hold her off one more season, then Billy will go back and forth between Fritz’s and Katie’s teams and I’ll only have to juggle two teams, not three.

Despite how much I love baseball, the 6 to 8 weeks of the season are pretty hectic. I plan simple dinners on game nights: pizza, tacos, pasta. I do as much prep and cleaning in the afternoon as possible. I serve out of Tupperware containers to make clean up easier. I try to assemble shoes and water bottles and snacks well in advance of departure time. I try to keep the baseball gear and the diaper bag in the car at all times. And frequently, when the day is over, my children go to bed a bit dirty.

When today’s forecast called for thunderstorms, I skeptically looked at the sunny sky and put the ingredients for pizza dough in the bread machine. But by the time I was confirming who wanted what toppings, I wondered if putting the pies in the oven this early was necessary. And by the time we sat down to eat, I was certain we would be losing our power due to the wind and rain (we didn’t).

With dinner eaten by 530 and nowhere to go and nothing to do, I seized the opportunity for everyone to have a proper scrub down including hair washings. I realize that that statement sounds absurd to anyone who has only one or two children, but I’m certain there are more than a few baseball moms who have placed their half-naked toddlers on the sink counter and washed them up “good enough.” I hear my own mother’s words coming from my mouth as I call “Feet, face, and hands!” to those old enough to wash themselves up. There are weeks I feel I’m Aunt Polly, and I’m herding a bunch of Tom Sawyers into the washroom on Saturday nights to make ’em decent before church the following morning.

As an incentive for a quick house-tidy, I promised everyone we could cut into Fritz’s ice-cream birthday cake a day early (more on that tomorrow). And with everyone clean, in their pajamas, and satiated with ice cream, we dove into a competitive game of Blokus (a game I highly recommend for whole families to enjoy together from ages 5 and up). Then the kids played Sorry! while I brushed and braided the girls’ clean hair.

It was a peaceful, relaxing and unexpected end to what would normally have been just another crazy day. And even though at least two of them are still awake an hour after goodnight kisses, I’ve been able to type up this post undisturbed and will myself now go up to rest my weary head.

Comedy hour

Toddlers seem to be naturals at slap-stick comedy. Something that I don’t find remotely amusing in grown men (Larry, Curly or Moe), and something that is silly and worth a smile in elementary-aged children, is downright hilarious when the entertainer is 2 years old. We’ve got one of those.

Little Pete also knows when he has captured his audience. He knows those laughs are for his antics, and he hams it up even more. His face contorts into his funniest expressions, his movements get wilder, and his energy-level seems infinite. And his absolute favorite time to perform is when his entire family is gathered and seated quietly: when it’s time for bedtime prayers. Instead of reverent children turning their innocent minds to offer pure prayers to the Creator, our family’s prayers are frequently choked out between guffaws and snickers.

The other night, Pete was using a miniature rugby ball as a prop. He would throw the ball, watch it careen off whatever surface it randomly hit (crib, dresser, his brother’s head), then stagger/waddle/run over to wherever it landed, and then repeat. When I said, “Pete, it’s time for prayers,” he stopped dead in his tracks for a second, threw the ball at his own head, and then took a huge prat-fall to the ground, making funny faces the whole time. Everybody laughed.

I sighed and made the following speech:

“There is a temptation to laugh. Petey is funny, but we are supposed to be praying. Have you noticed how I pray? I squeeze my eyes tightly shut so I can’t see the silly baby. Try to focus on the prayers and not look at Pete. If you have trouble, close your eyes, tightly! Try to resist the temptation to laugh. Don’t look at the baby! Now, let’s have a contest (my kids love contests). Let’s see who can go the longest without laughing. Okay? In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, Amen. Our Father, who art….”

And then, already, laughing. I opened my tightly squeezed eyes to see MY HUSBAND as the culprit. I shot him a look of death – the kind that demands to know what kind of a role-model he is and offers the answer of not-very-good – and returned to praying with closed eyes. Except for him, who thought even my chiding was funny and unashamedly continued to barely suppress his chuckling, the laughter was minimized and my two girls insisted that they had won the contest because they had managed to control themselves (that contest thing – gets them every time). I admit that at one point, sensing a pause in the action, I peeked to see what Mr. Stand-Up was doing and had to swallow a laugh myself.

Eventually, 2 year olds turn into 3 year olds and the same actions just aren’t quite as funny. Eventually, his occasional moments of imitated piety with perfectly folded fat fingers and serious expression will be routine.

Eventually, though, there will be another toddler to take his place, and I’ll be giving the same speech all over again.

Mother’s Day

My mom doesn’t remember the bracelet I gave her once. I had gone on a field trip to the aquarium and used my souvenir money to buy her a bracelet made from sea shells. I’m sure it looked stunning on her!

She does remember the time my brother gave her a pin with a raccoon on it. My dad couldn’t believe it when she wore it to church. It’s a mom thing.

Yesterday morning, my husband and my son, Fritz, were the first (after me) out of bed. They gave me the usual good morning hugs and kisses. Bill picked up the paper, and Fritz turned on Disney. The TV reminded viewers that it was Mother’s Day, so my two men dutifully wished me a happy mother’s day. Several minutes passed and down came Katie. She immediately came up to me, gave me a big hug, and wished me a happy mother’s day. Bill was astonished that she could think of that first thing in the morning. “She’s a girl,” I said. Yes, I knew there was a good reason to have daughters.

Katie had a present for me, too. Dangly angel earrings she had made herself at a friend’s house under the tutelage of the friend’s older sister. In blue – my favorite color. Aren’t they lovely?

Of course, she asked if I would be wearing them to church, and of course I did. It’s a mom thing.

On a related note, my sister sent me this e-card. I laughed so hard, I cried. And it kept the kids amused for at least 15 minutes or so – long enough for me to slip away for a short nap.

Time for chores

My day began with Billy throwing up. And doing so rather untidily. He’s rarely sick, so I’m trying not to alarm myself with irrational fears that he caught some incurable and deadly disease at the pediatrician’s office yesterday when he crab-walked on the floor. I’m usually pretty calm about dirt and germs, but the two places where I pretty much freak-out (as much as I am capable of freaking out) about my kids touching things, especially the floor, are doctors’ offices and public restrooms.

I think the pregnancy hormones are making me a bit more panicky than normal.

Thankfully, there is absolutely nothing on my calender for today. Just school.

And my ever-growing to-do list. So, I’ll push-up my sleeves, get out the rug shampooer, and start tackling those chores before the sun’s beckoning rays drag us outside. And today, Petey will get his nap, yes, indeed.

Cool, calm, collected…and clean

After getting my IV of coffee this morning, I set to work paying bills online and balancing my checkbook and other thrilling activities that are pretty mindless. Around 730 am, I realized that Pete wasn’t awake yet, even though he’s usually up and about long before 7 am.

Despite nearly 9 years of mommydom, I had a momentary wave of hysteria pass through my body as I thought that possibly something terrible had happened.

And then I instantly calmed myself by remembering that he’s been skimping on naps recently (my fault, not his), and his poor little body was just trying to make up for his missed rests.

Then I thought of Jenny throwing up in her sleep while lying on her back. That sort of a thing killed Elvis; God was looking out for her last night, I am sure. And then I remembered that Billy had thrown up before bed and how my husband’s stomach was upset and I had told him (around 3 am) that we obviously had some sort of virus in the house.

What if Pete had the virus too? What if he had thrown up in his sleep? What if he hadn’t been as lucky as Jenny? Those cold fingers of fear encircled my heart and began to slowly squeeze it.

I had not yet showered. I knew that if I went into his room and peeked in on him, he would wake up and it would be another half hour until I got in the shower. I knew that if I went into his room and he were dead, I likely would not get a shower today at all! And what could I really change about his vital signs by postponing my shower? At the very least, I wouldn’t be apologizing to the police for my appearance and smell if I took a shower first. It would be one less stressor in the tragic situation, knowing that my armpits were powder-fresh.

And so I took my shower, and when I was done, Petey was happily playing with Fritz downstairs. Fritz said he woke up one minute after I went upstairs.

It’s a good thing I didn’t debate much longer.

Take Your Child to Earth Day

When was Earth Day – last Sunday? Sorry, it’s not a high feast day around here. We take our responsibility as stewards of God’s gifts pretty seriously, but too many “Save the Earth” types are prejudiced against big families. I don’t get that – after all, per person, my family consumes less electricity, water and gas than a family of three or four: our house is much smaller than Al Gore’s.

Today is Take Your Child to Work Day, another ridiculous idea. Back in the days when Bill worked for a civilian firm, our kids were too young to attend any of the pomp surrounding this day. Now our kids are old enough, but he’s never had a job that left him free for the day to shuttle children around from one activity to another. Because Take Your Child to Work Day isn’t about taking your child to work at all. It’s about taking a day off work to spend it at your office doing activities unrelated to work at your employer’s expense. It’s really Have a Fun Day at the Office Day. And if I wanted the kids to spend the day doing fun stuff with their dad, it wouldn’t be at an office with someone else’s choreographed activities. We’d go to the beach or a park or a museum – definitely not the office.

My husband’s office is having events all day today, and they’ve chosen an Earth Day theme. What could be more fun (please note the dripping sarcasm) than combining two idiotic secular holidays into one big celebration? My husband assures me that he will be somewhat available to spend some amount of time with us as we move from activity to activity through dense crowds of kids all hyped up because they’re missing school for the day (and I include my own in that judgmental statement). Times like these are when I kick myself for not buying those kid leashes that seem so awful until you have more than two kids to keep track of in a crowd.

I’m sure the day will be lovely. I also plan on getting out of there right after lunch, even though they promise a puppet show at 1 pm. Petey will just not care about puppets by that time. Pray I don’t lose anybody!