NJ man accused of raping, beating 5 daughters :
“I’m sure my not standing up to him didn’t help the kids.”
Abuse continued until she left him. I will never understand this. I can not imagine the thought processes that keep women in these situations for longer than it takes to find the front door.
Oh my God. How horrible!
its because they damage their minds as well as their bodies and so it becomes this twisted, scared think of “i can't leave, he'd find me”, etc etc.
very very sad.
It also has to do with the way they were raised. If they were abused themselves, they believe that abuse is the only reality. They don't know there is any better way. It's all they have experienced, so it is all they know.
Whether someone was abused or not as a child, the abuser of the adult will isolate the woman and berate her until she thinks she is worthless. Therefore, it is very important to teach your daughters not to let anyone isolate them from friends & family – no matter how much they are pressured. They need to be taught that if someone tries to isolate them, then that person doesn't really love them. Also, the first time they are hit or verbally castigated, they need to run the other way – it never gets better & the guy will never reform.
I'm currently reading a book about the working poor in America and am in the middle of the physical and sexual abuse chapter. It is sick and painful to even read, I just want to rescue every child who has been exposed to this. 😦
Abusers are very good at wearing their victim down a little at a time, so they don't even realize it (the old adage of the frog and the boiling water). By the time the worst abuse begins to happen, the victim can't find a way to get out. And that's what the abuser wants. Unbelievable.
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