Interesting dilemma. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to tell everyone you know that you’ve gone over to the perceived “dark side” of conformity. I, too, once thought Catholicism and all of Christianity was all about conformity. I, too, now realize that conforming to Christ is definitely not the same as conforming to society. Oh no, conforming to Christ is much much harder and definitely means ostracism in most quarters. Even among “good” Catholics, I find myself holding back lest I be seen as some saintly, perfect creature I know myself to not be. It is pretty easy to be a generic goodfellow and live by the motto, “no harm, no foul.” But to “be who you are, and be that well” is a most daunting challenge indeed.